How To Overcome Anxiety During Sex?
When a person is stressed , that he thinks, that he focuses his attention, he uses areas of his brain which will unfortunately turn off the areas of sexual arousal and pleasure . It is impossible to think and have fun at the same time. This phenomenon is also present in everyday life. If you try to enjoy a dish that you eat while thinking about very material things, you will find that you will no longer enjoy the taste of what you eat even though you love the dish.
Try watching your favorite TV show one day while thinking about things to do the next day, you will find that you will not be able to keep up with the show. It's the same with sex, no one is able to think and be aroused at the same time.
The second consequence of anxiety is that it causes the stress hormone adrenaline to secrete . These secretions have the effect of closing the arteries in the body, the blood no longer arrives correctly in certain organs including the genitals.
Don't think and relax
Some people have a natural ability to put anxiety aside and just enjoy the moment. For them, it is extremely difficult to do spontaneously. Their capacity to think, think, ask questions is so strong that it is impossible for them to calm their stress by simple will.
It is not always easy, at the time of intercourse, to apply the same methods against anxiety as to apply them in everyday life.
If you feel nervous and need to relax during the day, you can take a few minutes on your own, take a walk, clear your head, go to sports, or listen to music etc. .. This cannot be done during sex. There is a need for anti-stress methods adapted to sexuality.
The relaxation methods to use
There is no need to waste time and energy pushing negative thoughts out of your mind during sex.
On the other hand, it is possible to voluntarily seek positive, exciting ideas and thoughts that give pleasure. For example, it is possible to think about the pleasure received, the pleasure given to the other, look at the desired other, rethink what attracts him / her, become aware of the pleasant side of what is done and even fantasize, etc. ... "This manual control of thoughts" gives less the possibility of trying to think less than to decide what to think about.
This technique is learned gradually, the first times you have to succeed in applying them only a few seconds, then the next times a little more and gradually it can become a habit and a technique more and more easy to do.
Like all mental gymnastics, it takes repetition and time.
Daily life exercises
There are several anti-stress methods that exist that would be useful against anxiety during sex such as meditation , relaxation therapy , mindfulness, etc. A fun method is to change your habits regularly.
For example, not always taking the same route to go to work, not always sitting in the same place at home or at work, changing the type of dishes eaten, changing the position of furniture from time to time at home and other simple details of this type.
The point of doing this is to teach the brain to continually adapt to change. The result is that during sex, if things don't go the way you wanted, no problem, you adapt, you do otherwise, changing your practice, continuing instead of feeling anxious and blocked.
As sexuality changes throughout our lives anyway, developing this adaptability will be very helpful now and in the future.
Try watching your favorite TV show one day while thinking about things to do the next day, you will find that you will not be able to keep up with the show. It's the same with sex, no one is able to think and be aroused at the same time.
The second consequence of anxiety is that it causes the stress hormone adrenaline to secrete . These secretions have the effect of closing the arteries in the body, the blood no longer arrives correctly in certain organs including the genitals.
Don't think and relax
Some people have a natural ability to put anxiety aside and just enjoy the moment. For them, it is extremely difficult to do spontaneously. Their capacity to think, think, ask questions is so strong that it is impossible for them to calm their stress by simple will.
It is not always easy, at the time of intercourse, to apply the same methods against anxiety as to apply them in everyday life.
If you feel nervous and need to relax during the day, you can take a few minutes on your own, take a walk, clear your head, go to sports, or listen to music etc. .. This cannot be done during sex. There is a need for anti-stress methods adapted to sexuality.
The relaxation methods to use
There is no need to waste time and energy pushing negative thoughts out of your mind during sex.
On the other hand, it is possible to voluntarily seek positive, exciting ideas and thoughts that give pleasure. For example, it is possible to think about the pleasure received, the pleasure given to the other, look at the desired other, rethink what attracts him / her, become aware of the pleasant side of what is done and even fantasize, etc. ... "This manual control of thoughts" gives less the possibility of trying to think less than to decide what to think about.
This technique is learned gradually, the first times you have to succeed in applying them only a few seconds, then the next times a little more and gradually it can become a habit and a technique more and more easy to do.
Like all mental gymnastics, it takes repetition and time.
Daily life exercises
There are several anti-stress methods that exist that would be useful against anxiety during sex such as meditation , relaxation therapy , mindfulness, etc. A fun method is to change your habits regularly.
For example, not always taking the same route to go to work, not always sitting in the same place at home or at work, changing the type of dishes eaten, changing the position of furniture from time to time at home and other simple details of this type.
The point of doing this is to teach the brain to continually adapt to change. The result is that during sex, if things don't go the way you wanted, no problem, you adapt, you do otherwise, changing your practice, continuing instead of feeling anxious and blocked.
As sexuality changes throughout our lives anyway, developing this adaptability will be very helpful now and in the future.